Dear mommy, this is an open letter I am writing to you. I want to be honest with you because I do like you. 🙂
Let me introduce you to 15 reasons why I don’t always eat your baby food. I managed to put together this list while you were sleeping in the morning. I don’t have an idea why you sleep in so much, I am all fresh in the morning. 🙂
I like that the most ideas about what to write next pops up in my head at 1 am or 3 am. Basically at the time when I should sleep so I am not a grumpy and a miserable mommy… 😀 Oh well.
I haven’t written a word for about 2 months. No! 3 months! 😲 I just didn’t have the right time, an empty room to sit down and write. It might sound like an excuse but really… suddenly I was cooking more, grocery shopping more, playing with my daughter more, cleaning more, being a staying home mom more…
The quarantine is over. And I finally feel I can start over.
I felt the urge to gather up things I learnt, I realized over this time 🙂 It might sound silly but that’s the things that were going on in my, i call it, “a life bubble”.
1. Ironing a cloth face mask on top of a blanket made of plastic is a bad idea 😀
I was lazy to pull out the ironing board and I don’t know what I was thinking about but a fluffy blanket seemed like the best thing to iron on. Until I realized that the blanket is made of plastic. 😀 Oh ooh!
I was with my friends in Jeseníky mountains about a month ago. There was a tiny sauna in the bed & breakfast. I decided to go with my friend even though sauna is not my cup of tea. As I had had a yoga challenge that week (each day only 5 minutes for healthier back) I felt like I had to accomplish other things as well. Soooo… I had to empty the bucket of icy cold water over my head. 🙂 Once I managed to pour it down over my head I immediately found a joy in this quite stupid activity 😀 THE BUCKET got me. 😀 It was an indescribable joy. I said to myself, sauna with a bucket that’s my thing now.
If someone had told me that I could suffer from “a mommy thumb” after pregnancy I would have laughed at him and said that my thumbs are just fine. Well it has been happening… pretty much since my daughter was born. It is not about thumbs that much as it is about a painful wrist. Recently I discovered that there is a sexier name for this issue and it is DeQuervain’s tendinopathy. Now I feel quite special 😀
The actual situation: I have a 7 months old daughter, I started lifting her up under her arms at her chest. I hoped that the pain would go away. Nope, it did not. I possibly have both wrist inflamed and my elbow started hurting as well.
What is DeQuervain’s tendinopathy?
De Quervain’s tendinopathy is an inflammation of two tendons and their tendon sheath in your hand/wrist. Your wrist is in pain and you basically can’t grip, rotate your wrist, move your thumbs certain ways. The issue starts usually after 4-6 weeks after labor, by carrying a child and as one smart guy explains in the video below due to the pregnancy hormone relaxin that loosen your ligaments you then overuse your tendons and they can get easily painful and inflamed.
The main reason why I wanted to write this post is to cheer up fresh mommies who can’t breastfeed or have some difficulties.
Don’t get me wrong. I agree that breastfeeding is the best thing for your baby and you as well. Plus, it doesn’t cost a thing, you don’t spend time by preparing the formula, you don’t need to sterilize all the ****. The milk is instant. Can’t beat it. Who wouldn’t agree? But when it is not working it is not workiiiiing. Nothing you can do.
Important info first: My daughter is now 5 months old and she is not breastfed. She is on baby formula. It is slightly different with breastfed babies.
When I was little I used to hate carrots. It was all mushy, no taste. And now at my 39 I am making my daughter eat the same stuff. 🙂 No wonder that she doesn’t like carrots. This is our story how my baby daughter started with the “solid” food.
When I was born in 80’s there was no such thing as a bonding with your baby after a labor. The baby was placed strictly into a different room with a window so daddies could wave at you, like you were some kind of an alien. A xenomorph. Okay, Alien is my favorite movie. :D I don’t know why. Probably to make sure that when the baby comes out it wouldn’t get a shock from seeing the mom’s face the first time 😀 and vice versa. Well, you are going to spend with each other whole life 🙂
I am glad things are different these days. I was told that the bonding is very very important. And if you don’t have the proper bonding it can affect your relationship with your baby. That is just scary. Right? You are sh****** your pants from giving a birth to a child and they yet scare you with things like bad relationship with your lovely child. Okay, I am exaggerating a bit. 😀
Well, my bonding wasn’t the bonding you read in magazines about.
BUT… one week ago… I wasn’t in labor… I was in Liberec, testing a baby carrier according to the thorough manual. 😀 Almost like on airplane! 🙂
Last week I was alone with my daughter. My boyfriend went climbing to Sicily. Yes, I let him go. It is his passion. The worst thing, from my point of view, is not letting your partner to do what he/she likes. Some women might disagree. And I admit it. When your man has way to many passions like cycling & climbing & drinking & spending too much time in bathroom (not in front of a mirror) & watching sports on TV it gets quite frustrating.
I took the week alone with my daughter as a C.H.A.L.L.E.N.G.E. 👍 Who doesn’t like challenges, right? 🙂
During this one week as “a single mom” I have learnt these 10 things
Disclaimer: I write this post based on my experience. Every baby is unique. Every mom is unique. So please take this as my recommendation.
When I was probably in the 5th month of pregnancy I started panicking: “There is no way I could get ready all of these things for my baby”. I usually have a hard time buying a pair of pants for myself and now I had to buy a million things and I had no idea what to buy, where to start, basically what to even want.
I don’t want to share a plain “to buy list” . There are dozens of those and they drove me crazy as they never explained why you need it.
I want to share a list of things based on my experience with an explanation why the certain item was useful or not.
It is a long list but after you read it you might know little bit better what to aim for.
I must confess I feel touched by lots of things these days. It started with the pregnancy and got even worse after the labor 😀
Today I was coming home by metro. I was getting ready to get off and still while the train was arriving to the end station I saw two kids on a platform jumping and waving. A little girl and probably her older brother. In the background there was their mom for sure.